This reaction was weaved into our sensitive little nervous systems as young children when we did not have the capacity to metabolize the intensity in an environment of loving presence. And out of this organization we created our unique strategies of fight/ flight/ freeze – as a way to get out of very intense states of vulnerability and protect ourselves from the fiery aliveness of the emotional world.
But what if for just one moment, you did absolutely nothing in relation to the arising of emotional intensity? If you neither repressed or denied it, nor urgently scrambled to seek relief from it? If you stayed close and made a commitment to non-abandonment and sanctuary for these wisdom-guests as they arrive? Must you actually find ‘relief’ from the orphaned visitors of your body, your heart, and your psyche?
What would happen?
What if the most wise, loving, attuned response was to take no action? To not scramble to mend your broken heart, to not urgently spin to ‘transform’ the sadness into happiness, and to not frenetically seek to ‘heal’ your fear? To not give into the ancient demand that you fall into the extremes of denial or seeking relief, abandoning the uninvited ones through the fueling of a story about what has happened, who is to blame, why they are there, when they will go away, and what their presence actually means about you as a person?
These feelings and emotions are pure energy flow and information. They are not enemies or obstacles on your path, but are the very path itself. They have not come to harm you but only to be allowed back into the majestic vastness that you are. This ‘doing nothing’ is not a cold, passive resignation, but is an alive, sacred activity, infused with presence and a wild sort of compassion. To do so is a radical act of kindness and love, and a holy gift that you can offer yourself and others.